Love is all you need

            Have you been experienced having a special someone? Someone you want to spend your time and give your attention. That at that time of your life, you don’t care if in the future it will give you a scar, all you know is that you’re in love, and that emotion is just so amazing. Many people say that, falling in love is indeed, the best thing that will ever happen to a person. They say that it is love when you can still draw a smile on your face even though you are facing the worst day ever; when you catch yourself thinking about that person; when every second, minute, hour, and day with him is like heaven; and all that matters is that at that moment, you know that you want to be with him or her for the rest of your life.  But is that feeling is really what they called love? What does it really means to be in love?

            They say “Love is all you need.” Many of us have sensed it intuitively. Now, behind this statement is a science. With the Harvard researcher’ 75- year old longitudinal study, they suggest that “love is indeed key to a hapy and fulfilling life.” Dr. George Vaillant, the Harvard study’s lead researcher wrote of his team’s findings. The finding is that: “two essential ingredients are proven to correlate with a happy existence: "One is love. The other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away." We face many hindrances in taking the actions that permit love to flow without restraint throughout our lives and relationships, as many of us believe that we would like to be in love. And as a lover, we have so many means of defending ourselves against it and can fight to give and receive love with ease, openness and vulnerability.

            With love being connected closely to meaning and fulfillment, it is precious for each people to define love as an “action or series of actions we can take to bring us closer to the people we value.” In a romantic context, the “Psychology Today” gives some important and critical characteristics that fit the description of a loving relationship. And it include:

àExpressions of affection, both physical and emotional.

àA wish to offer pleasure and satisfaction to another.

àTenderness, compassion, and sensitivity to the needs of the other.

àA desire for shared activities and pursuits.

àAn appropriate level of sharing of possessions.

àAn ongoing, honest exchange of personal feelings.

àThe process of offering concern, comfort, and outward assistance for the loved one's aspirations.

            Frequently, we think of love as a contrary to a conscious choice we make and almost a passive state of being. We come to see ourselves and that special person as a single unit. We then fall into roles instead of appreciating each other as individuals ad experiencing the exciting and loving feelings that result.

            Truly, as we reflect, we learn and discover a lot, not only how we interpose woth our feelings for that person, but also the negative ways we feel about ourselves. “One of the biggest reasons we shut out love is because we feel unworthy or self-denying. Therefore, to have a loving relationship, we must challenge our negative self-concept, or critical inner voice. When we do this and take the loving actions that contradict our critical self-image, we enhance our own sense of worth and are able to get closer to the people we love.”

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Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201312/what-it-really-means-be-in-love