My name is Lance
(pseudonym). I came from a family out of wedlock, I stay with my Dad because my
Mom has her own family already based from the story of my Dad. But I am still
lucky; Dad is always there to support me to whatever move I make, he give me
whatever I need. He is my superhero. I am a happy-go-lucky person. At first, I
don’t mind having a family where my parents are separated. They are separated
because they are not married from the start. But then I realized that I don’t need
cash, I don’t need material things that makes me a happy kid. I need a family.
I need them both, but I left with only one, my father. In school, we’re taught
that a family is the basic unit a society. It is composed of a father, a mother
and children, the children are the fruits of the couple. Yes, I am the fruit of
my Mom and Dad. But as I grew up, I am the fruit of my Dad. My Mom is nowhere
to find. I finished high school with Dad beside me. I graduated with honors
then. I am so happy and proud, and so my Dad. While in school, I learned to
love someone and dreamt of having a family with her. Not like the family where
I grew up. Honestly, it is hard to grow up in a family where you only have one
parent; you only have your dad. In school, there are parents meeting and some
family days where both parents are required to come. It is hard for me to
explain to my classmates that my parents are separated, or they are not
married. It is hard for me to explain to them that I grew up with my Dad, that
I don’t know who and where my Mom is. For them and for Filipino culture per se
since women are the ones who bear a child, and if in my case, I must be living
with my mom and not with my dad. It is hard for me to explain to them my
existence. Sometimes, I think that my Dad just adopted me but no, he had proven
to me that I am his child. And I salute my dad for all his sacrifices for me
alone. Now, I am in a relationship for like 3 years. I love her so much that I
would go to their house, to fetch her and we’ll go to the park and talk
anything under the sun over pizza and tea. We both love pesto and fries. My dad
knows about my relationship with my girlfriend. I make sure that she is good
every single day. We kissed and one thing led to the other. After three years
of being in a relationship, she is pregnant and I am only 18. Yes, this is a
mistake, a big mistake. I never thought I will make such a mess like this. The
worst thing is, her parents are mad at me. They would not let me visit my
girlfriend. They would not let me bring food, chocolates and roses for her just
like when we’re still on our first and second years as boyfriend and
girlfriend. I miss her just like I miss my Mom. I miss her so much. Thank God
my father is beside me since I was a child. He scolded me at first but he then
understands the situation. But since the parents of my girlfriend are very
angry, they flew to states and kept my child and my girlfriend. I feel
miserable. I feel devastated. I feel so incomplete. Once again, I was left with
someone, my Dad. He let me understands the situation. Because of what happened,
I felt so hard to deal with things around me. I felt so weak and I could not
concentrate especially on my studies. He told me a story, the story of what
happened between them and my Mom. Just like my situation right now, my mom got
pregnant when she was still in college. My Mom’s parents are mad so after she
gives birth my mom gave me to my Dad and she disappeared in just a snap. Now, I
understand why my Dad understands me. Why my dad supports me and cared for me.
I understand now. He is a teen dad. And I just wished that when the time, my
girlfriend give birth to our child I will be able to see them. I will be able
to go near them without fear. I will be able to say, just like my father that I
am a teen dad.
SocSci 10 Z Group 4
Jaeger Dwayne Tamara,
Mike Gyro Paras,
Anthony Teofilo Jr.,
GiannaCapacia,
Faye Mendoza,
Jerome Gabriel.
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