Epekto ng Pagkawalay sa Pamilya

"Yes! Isang taon na lang makakagraduate na tayo sa high school," iyan ang bukang bibig ko pagkatapos ng ikatlong antas sa hayskul. Isang taon na lamang ang aking gugugulin para sa bagong yugto ng aking buhay. Hindi lamang siya isang taon ng pag-aaral kundi sinamahan pa ng matinding meditasyon para sa pipiliing kong kurso at magdamag na isipin kung saang paaralan ako dapat pumasok. UP yan ang eskwelahan na napili ko. Hindi man ako siguradong makakapasa sa UPCAT, andyan pa rin ang aking mga magulang na sumusuporta. "Anak galingan mo sa exam, kayang kaya mo yan!" Yan ang habilin nina nanay bago ako sumabak sa giyera. UPCAT results noon, naalala ko pa bago ito magpasko. Hiniling ko pa kay Lord na sana kahit iyon na lamang ang kanyang pamasko sa akin. Pikit, dasal at magkadaupang palad ako sa harap ng computer kasama ang aking mga kapatid. Sa isang click at ilang segundong pag scroll ng mouse ay biglang na lamang sigawan ang aking naririnig. Si nanay, si tatay, si ate at si kuya ay tuwang tuwa. Kitang kita sa mga mata nila ang salitang "proud." August 12- "yes, isa na akong ganap na upian" ito ang mga katagang aking nabanggit. Sa kabila ng desisyong ito ang pagkawalay ko sa aking pamilya.

Yung araw na hinatid ako nila mama, hindi ko alam ang aking gagawin at mararamdaman parang may kulang. Gawa na din na ito ang unang pagkakataon na mahihiwalay ako sa kanila sa ganitong sitwasyon. Masaya kasi masasabi kong malaya akong gawin ang lahat ng gusto ko pero hindi rin pala. Sa umpisa lang masaya, naranasan kong kumain mag-isa, ipagluto ang sarili, mag-grocery mag-isa at gamitin ang sarili kong pera. Matapos ang unang lingo ko noon, hindi ko alam kung anong gagawin ko pero bandang huli umuwi din ako kahit na hindi ko alam kung paano umuwi sa amin noon. Umabot sa 12 oras ang byahe na dapat ay 6 oras lamang. Nasa isip-isip ko noon makakauwi pa ba ako? Pero mabuti’t nakarating ako sa bahay nang matiwasay. Ang masarap sa pag-uwi ay ikaw ay sobrang inaalagaan ng iyong magulang. Tatanungin ka ng “Ano ang gusto mong ulam?” o “Ano ang gusto mong gawin?” Masarap, sobrang sarap at saya na ganito at sobra kang inaaruga ng iyong mga magulang maging ang aking mga kapatid. Pero akin ngang nabanggit na lahat ng bagay ay may katapusan.

At dahil karamihan sa atin ay gustong magkaroon ng inaasam na kalayaan mula sa apat na sulok ng bahay at gawin ang ninanais ay nagawa ko ring magsinungaling sa magulang sa oras ng pag-uwi, sa ginagawa sa unibersidad, at sa mga taong kinakasama. Nariyan din ang pagka-depress sapagkat di ko kayang sabihin sa aking magulang na ako'y mababa sa mga pagsusulit, kaya't pinipilit ko na lang na magkunwaring iniigihan ang gawaing pangkolehiyo. Ngayo'y pilit ko nang binabago ang aking sarili. Sana'y di ko na lang tinuloy ang masasamang gawain. Kung hindi lang ako nawalay sa aking pamilya, mabait pa sana ako. Pero para sa atin, nasa tao lang din naman kung tayo'y magbabago.

Walang dudang mahirap malayo sa pamilya lalo na kung ito ang unang pagkakataon na ikaw ay mawawalay ng matagal. Samu't saring emosyon ang iyong mararamdaman. Nariyan ang saya sapagkat ikaw ay malaya. Malayang magagawa ang mga gusto mong gawin at naisin na walang nakabantay na magulang. Ngunit sa kabilang banda ay malungkot din dahil, wala pa ring hihigit sa pakiramdam na kapiling mo sa iyong tabi ang iyong mga magulang at kapatid.

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GROUP 6

Domingo, Mark Anthony

Jacobe, Dessa Mae I.

Perez, Jeff

Posilero, Jinky

Rubiano, Geremie

Tajan, Patrisha Willyn Mae

Her rapist father

I’m not a friendly person but I am close with my relatives especially with my cousins in both mother’s and father’s side in the province. Now let me tell you a story about my third cousin who I will introduce to you in a code name Ayah. Before, I wish I could be like her because she was kind, humble, intelligent and admirable, until a worst situation being told by her took my attention and sympathize with her. She was raped by her father.

Every time we visit our province because we used to go there on vacation, I usually play with my cousins in the farm especially with ate Ayah who was lively and cheerful. She is the eldest among her brother who was in elementary that time and sister who was in kinder. Her father was hard-working like her mother. They were in the middle class in terms of status in the society. Her father always waits for her after school that’s why she didn’t have a boyfriend because she was obedient all the time. But one year after her mother has worked abroad, she changed. She became distant to us and we assumed that maybe it’s because she misses her mother’s care and love. My other cousins who I have communication with told me that ate Ayah always had bruises, didn't talk anymore and does not go to school. Actually, I was shocked and worried that time, I’m crying that’s why I told my parents that I need to go in the province because ate Ayah needs me. After that revelation in our reunion, my uncles immediately find ate Ayah’s father in his work. They called police men and ate Ayah’s mother. The news traveled fast in the barrio that everybody already knew about it. I don’t know how and when but my concern is that ate Ayah got worst, even auntie didn't know what to do with her. She had an addict boyfriend who even got her pregnant. Now, she lives with that guy and they had two children. The more they stop her, the more she insists being with him. My Ate Ayah entirely changed and it’s in a worst way.

I tried to talk with her so many times but she always runs away and that makes me feel bad. I hate her father because he’s the reason why ate became like that. She is not my older sister anymore who I admired and idolized.

Group 2

Feby Andrea Laroco

Isabella Herreria

Dally Delos Santos

Danna Ruiz

Rensea Mae De Vera

Anna Mae Alamag

Jeska Nicole Cabiles

Isang anak sa labas kung tawagin

May mga batang ipinanganak  at lumaki na hindi legal sa mata ng iba ang kanilang ugnayan sa kanilang ama o ina dahil sa nabuo sila sa kasalanan ng kanilang mga magulang. Sila ay tinatawag ng karamihan na“isang anak sa labas”. Mainit ang tingin ng iba sa kanila at parang napakalaki ng kanilang kasalanan gayong ang mga magulang naman ng mga ito ang nagkasala. Narito ang isang kwento ng aking kaibigan (pangalanan nalang natin siyang Jane), kwento ng kanyang buhay, na nabuo sa pagkakamali ng kaniyang mga magulang.

            Si Jane ay isang anak ng kanyang ama, sa ibang babae (ito ayang kanyang ina). Noong bata pa lamang siya lagi siyang inaapi ng kanyang mga kalaro dahil may ibang pamilya ang kaniyang ama, lagi nilang sinasai sa kanya na isa siyang anak sa labas, at salot sa lipunan. Hindi na lamang ito pinapansin ni Jane dahil wala naman siyang ginagawang kasalanan. Malinis ang kanyang konsensya kung kaya’t hindi na lamang niya pinapayulan ang mga batang nang-aapisa kanya. Ngunit sa kabilang banda, masakit pa rin ito sa kanyang kalooban at hindi niya matanggap sa kanyang sarili na gayon ang takbo ng kanyang buhay. Ni minsan ay hindi niya nakapiling ang kanyang ama, ang kanyang ina ang nag-aruga sa kanya simula noon pagkabata. Ngunit kahit wala sa piling nila ang kanyang ama ay maayos naman ang kanilang pamumuhay, nakakakain naman sila ng tatlong beses sa isang araw, pero hindi rin niya maipagkakaila na sabik siya sa kalinga ng kaniyang ama.

            Nagpursigido si Jane sa pag-aaral upang kahit ganoon ay mayroon siyang maipagmamalaki kahit papaano.Lagi siyang top1 sa klase at grumadweyt siya ng elementarya at sekundarya na hawak ang titulong Valedictorian. Marami ang namamangha sa kanyang angking katalinuhan. Kung kaya’t siya ay natutuwa roon.

            Isang araw, naisipan niyang hanapin ang kanyang mga ama at kapatid sa ama sa mga website gaya ng facebook at twitter, alam naman niya kahit papaano ang pangalan ng kanyang ama at kanyang mga kapatid dahil lagi itong nababanggit ng kanyang ina sa kanya. Sa hindi inaasahang pagkakataon, nahanap niya ang kanyang kuya (panganay sa kanilang magkakapatid; kapatid sa ama) sa pamamagitan ng facebook. Kanya itong sinabi sa kanyang kuya lahat, na siya ay kanya ring kapatid, at alam rin pala ng kanyang kuya ang lahat ng tungkol sa kanya. Matagal rin pala siyang hinanap ito,at laking pasalamat raw ng kuya niya at nagkatagpo silang dalawa. Tinanggap siya ng kanyang kuya ng walang pag-aalinlangan.

            Nagkaroon na ng kontak sa isa’t isa si Jane at kanyang ama, bakasyon noon nang magkita sila ng kanyang ama, at yinayaya siya nito na magbakasyon sa kanilang bahay. Noong nasa puder na siya ng kanyang ama, lahat ng kilos niya ay limitado. Kailangan niyang magpakita ng mabubuting pag-uugali dahil ayaw niyang iba ang isipin sa kanya ng pamilya niya, pamilyang hindi niya kinagisnan,pamilya sa panig ng kanyang ama.

            Ngunit kahit tanggap na siya ng kanyang mga kapatid, ang asawa ng kanyang ama ay hindi pa rin siya matanggap. Hindi maganda ang trato ng kanyang tita (asawa ng kanyang ama) at dumating sa punto na lahat ng gamit ni Jane ay sinunog nito kahit wala naman siyang ginagawang masama. At dahil hindi naman niya ito masisisi, hindi na lamang siya nagtanim ng galit dito at pinatawag niya kaagad ang kanyang tita.

            Ilang buwan rin ang lumipas, hanggang sa napalapit na siya sa kanyang tita, nag umpisa ito noong pinagtanggol niya ang kanyang tita sa mga mapang aping kapitbahay, na sinasabing ang kanyang tita raw ay isang mangkukulam, gayong hindi naman.

            Naging maayos na ang trato sa kanya ng kanyang tita at naging masaya na silang lahat. Napatawad na rin ng kanyang tita ang kanyang ina. At ngayon ay gagradweyt na si Jane ng kolehiyo. At masaya na siya sa buhay niya ngayon.

            Ito ay isang kwentong nagbigay ng isang inspirasyon sa akin, hindi ko akalain na kaya siyang patawarin ng kanyang tiya. Kahit ganoon siya, kahit ang tawag sa kanya ng iba ay isang anak sa labas, pinakita niyang kaya itong mabago. Ginawa niya lahat upang mapatawad siya ng kusa ng kanyang tiya, pati na rin ang kanyang ina.

Group 3 SocSci10Z

Nunez, Vanessa Janine R.

Red, Ramces Brayalle T.
Ojos, Kevin H.

Alabin, Glassyl R.

Calip, Kaye Paula Ara M.
Moraleta, Raniella

Marriage and Divorce

            The Philippines, one of the only societies where separation and divorce is deemed illegal. Whether forever may exist in love or not, divorce should allow the ‘love-lost’ individuals to recoup and find their true love. Looking at history, divorce and annulment are no strangers to the Philippines as divorce laws had existed during the American colonial period and Japanese occupation in the first half of the twentieth century. This, however, became prohibited when the 1949 Civil Code was enacted. As a result of the strong influence of the conservative Catholic introduction during the Spanish colonial period over the Filipino government, tens to hundreds of thousands of individuals are somewhat ‘jailed’ into their own loveless, potentially abusive marriages.

            While current separation laws do exist in the Philippines today, this only allows each spouse to live apart from each other, and separate their assets. They are not, however, allowed to engage in adultery or concubinage, lest one wishes to face serious charges. And as for declaring nullities of marriages, this allows for the marriage to ‘never have happened’, lying on the grounds that the marriage was bigamous, incestuous, and polygamous, had a lack of a valid marriage license, or was under aged (below 18 years old). Annulment may be allowed under a marriage in the church (Roman Catholic, as is the main religion practiced by the country), however, the process, including having to attain a church and a civil annulment through a church canon lawyer or a state prosecutor, would take about 4 years to do so. Additionally, the process fee would cost you up to about a minimum of PhP180,000.00 to a maximum of, or more than PhP300,000.00, without the lawyer’s fee. Today, it is much more practical to continue on and tolerate your spouse than it is to separate from each other.

            When wanting a ‘separation’, Filipinos tend to find and continue on with another relationship, leaving their marriage behind. While they may still be married on paper however, the marriage ceases to exist for all practical purposes. Problems may arise from this act, which includes “a lack of child support payments, a formal asset division process, and other legal protections that come with a formal divorce” (Stevens). Additionally, while divorce may be considered ruining the sanctity of marriage, “what about the spouses who do not show love, respect and fidelity to their spouses by their acts of marital infidelity, spousal and child abuse, or who continuously fail to comply with the marital obligations? Is that not a form of disrespect to marriage?” (N. Segovia).

            For a country which has a very strong Catholic conscience, is not banning divorce leading to an increase of the ruining and disrespect of the ‘sanctity’ of marriage? While forcefully keeping marriages of those who wish naught to be together, together, is this not a means of forbidding one to find his or her real love, with whom no abuse, neglect, or infidelity will be undeservingly given? On the issue of divorce laws in the Philippines, a new discussion must be conducted with a huge amount of practicality implemented and incorporated in the dialogue, and not biased towards the religious faith of the nation.

 

Leon, S. L. (2014, October 6). The fight to make divorce legal in the Philippines. Retrieved from CNN: http://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/06/world/asia/philippines-legal-divorce-battle/

Santos, T. H. (2014, October 10). World's last legal ban on divorce doesn't keep Philippines couples together. Retrieved from The Washington Post: http://www.washingtonpost.com/world/worlds-last-legal-ban-on-divorce-doesnt-keep-philippines-couples-together/2014/10/09/d391c54c-4418-11e4-b437-1a7368204804_story.html

Stevens, B. (2014, October 14). Divorce Ban Leads to Unintended Consequences. Retrieved from The Stevens Firm, P.A. Family Law Center: http://www.scfamilylaw.com/divorce-ban-leads-unintended-consequences/

SocSci 10 Z Group 5

Enriquez, Ryan

Flores, Nathaniel Lorenz

Galido, Noel Joseph

Jimenez, Rica

Paican, Maria Luzviminda

Vergara, Bryan

SAVE THE FUTURE; PROTECT THE YOUTHS

A number of students, in their young ages, are accustomed to many vices that are multiplying unstoppably in our modern world today. They drink liquor, smoke cigarettes and weeds and sometimes they use drugs, which are very handy. Male youths mostly do these unprincipled acts however; females are also strongly influenced by men to indulge themselves in such acts. This is an addiction that excuses neither the rich nor the poor.

The core reason why some youths involve themselves into these deeds is the negligence of their parents who are supposed to help them in terms of crises in their lives as youths. When they face many problems, they have to look for someone who is willing to listen to whatever sensible/insensible things they say because their parents have no time to know what they are experiencing. Some children are also left to their grandparents because both of their parents have new families.

Youths even drink liquors before going to school. They ask permission from their teachers to use the comfort room for necessity but what they usually do is to smoke cigarettes and worse to smoke marijuana, the most accessible and popular hemp plant, which produces a mildly euphoric reaction.

As these youths look for someone who will show care to them, they get to know friends who are already expert in using drugs, drinking alcoholic beverages and smoking cigarettes and marijuana until they are already taught how to use such.

Their parents give them money for them to buy something to eat but they will just save it and buy liquor and cigarettes. They steal money from their parents and sometimes from other people. They even forget to respect their parents.

Some parents worry about their children because of what is happening nowadays. They never wanted this to happen to their children. However, have they done anything to keep their children away from these vices? Have they shown sufficient care? Do they even ask what is going on? Maybe, some could have done these but some continue being negligent. Will they remain blind and deaf to the reality that the world is getting cruel? Will they wait until their children become addicted to these vices too?

Teachers, as their second parents, intervene in students’ behavior everytime they are caught doing so. They call the parents of the students to inform them of the conduct of their children. However, the intervention should not stop inside the school because the convincing power of teachers, sometimes, falters.

Other than the vices mentioned, some students are also addicted to computer games. They choose to play in computer shops rather than going to school. It’s clearly a waste of time and money. Thus, the community should also take part in helping these students taking the right path.  

Youths have the right to learn and parents should give this opportunity to them. They should motivate their children to concentrate in their studies and refrain from using addictive drugs. As most people say, youths at present have already diverted into something undesirable because of modernization. The youths are the future leaders of our country. They are about to face adulthood. Thus, the people who are addicted to drugs should stop and concentrate to their studies for their future, for everyone’s future.

If only I have powers like any superhero, these should have been the people I’ve saved because they are of my age. Pity emanates within me whenever I think of them.

SocSci 10 Z Group 4

Jaeger Dwayne Tamara, 

Mike Gyro Paras, 

Anthony Teofilo Jr., 

GiannaCapacia, 

Faye Mendoza, 

Jerome Gabriel.

14 years later

I was born during the time my two older sisters were practically young women. Fourteen years after having their second child, there I came; and whether I was planned or not, I have no idea. Both of my parents were making a living overseas, and the three of us had to be left under our maternal grandparents' patronage.

When both of them were already in college, I was yet to learn reading three-letter words. They were watching pop music videos, hooked up on TV series, and giggling over rom-com movies while I entertained myself with Barney, Teletubbies and Bananas in Pajamas. 

I still remember envying my preschool classmates for having siblings near their age to play with. At home, I had no one else to play with (I don't remember having imaginary friends anyway, thank goodness); my sisters were always at school or out with their friends, and my grandparents were too weak to keep up with an energetic five-year-old. They wouldn't let me out of the house often either - most of the time I'd just watch other children my age playing outside through our veranda. 

That being the situation, I grew up to learn enjoying my own company. Television, books, toys and my pet Leila, a Pitbull, were my friends. Sure, I had those times when I wished for a companion - a real, human one, but I wasn't what you could really consider "sad." In fact, there were some perks too!

•  I always get new stuff -- being the stereotypical spoiled bunso of the family. I wasn't given hand-me-downs unlike other people with siblings, because my sisters' stuff were practically too old to get passed on to me.
• From the time I get to actually bond with my sisters, I always get stories about how different our generations are; it's like hearing "once upon a time" stories.
• They've shared tastes from their generation with me: from music, books, and movies. It's like I actually experienced being their age.
• As I approached my teenage years, that's the time our closeness was in its primetime. I suddenly felt the sisterhood as they thought me grown-up, lady-like things.
• Because of the age gap, they were almost like my parents because of the way they look after me. Cool, I have 3 sets of parents: my grandparents, my actual parents, and them. Yay!
• I almost never experienced sibling rivalry - my parents can't just compare 2 daughters 14 years apart in age. 

I could go on with this list, but here's a few. Well for me, having siblings with such a huge age gap has its own pros and cons. But because of those fourteen years of difference, I got the experience having siblings, but at the same time, know the feeling of being an only child, which is not a bad thing. People also say that I have the traits of a first born child, being bossy and all. I don't know, you just have to get used to it and enjoy your perks. 

SocSci10 Z Group 5

Enriquez, Ryan

Flores, Nathaniel Lorenz

Galido, Noel Joseph

Jimenez, Rica

Paican, Maria Luzviminda

Vergara, Bryan

Ideology

"Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage.” Sammy Cahn

            Young people used to think that if they found a person who will love them unconditionally, treat them like a princess or prince, and give gifts to them is the one that is compatible to them, the person they will fall in love with and they cannot imagine living the rest of their life without that person. So, they will marry that person and have children. This maybe an idealistic perspective of a person about marriage but this is based on media, observation and stories.

When two people used to get along very well to each other and have this so called spark between them is describe having a good chemistry which is the concept of chemistry as it applies to relationships. In Goethe 1809 novel, “Elective Affinities,” he further developed the idea of interpersonal chemistry, where he metaphorically compared the process of attraction between two people to a chemical reaction. In addition, recent neurological studies, such as Michael Liebowitz’s “The Chemistry of Love” (1983), have been able to describe the actual chemical processes that occur in the human body when a person is experiencing love. However, the understanding of the biological mechanisms that allow men and women to live are merely the starting point for understanding the human experience.     

Love as a cultural and social phenomenon can be perceived as one of the mechanisms human beings use in order to organize their world. Love is one of the processes through which human beings become attracted to one another, and in one of the way we have become accustomed to doing it in modern times, we seek a single partner with whom to fall in love with. For the purpose of forming a family, therefore, love may be one of the ways we use to select someone to have children with. Historically, however, mates have not often been chosen on the basis of love but rather—as previously noted—on the basis of convenience; at times mates are selected by the parents or families of the individuals to be married.

Love aims at and assists in the adjustment to frustrating experiences. To measure its effect on marriage it must be judged in its true form and not in poor falsifications. Seen in proper perspective, it has not only done no harm as a prerequisite to marriage, but it has mitigated the impact that a too- fast-moving and unorganized conversion to new socio- economic constellations has had upon our whole culture and it has saved monogamous marriage from complete disorganization.(Beigel 333)

Fowler, Ana Carolina (2007) "Love and Marriage: Through the Lens of Sociological Theories," Human

Architecture: Journal of theSociology of Self-Knowledge: Vol. 5: Iss. 2, Article 6. Retrieved March 30, 2012 from http://scholarworks.umb.edu/humanarchitecture/vol5/iss2/6

Group 2

Anna Mae Alamag

Jeska Nicole Cabiles

Dally Delos Santos

Rensea Mae De Vera

Isabella Herreria

Feby Andrea Laroco

Danna Ruiz

Dati Rati

Sa bawat paglipas ng panahon iba't ibang henerasyon ang nagdaraan. Sa mga henerasyong ito hinubog ang magkakaibang karanasan.

Mga kabataang isinilang ng dekada ’90:

Naranasan mo na bang tanungin ang sarili mo kung bakit tayo napapalo ni nanay o tatay? Minsan natatanong na lang natin kung mahal ba talaga nila tayo sa ganoong paraan ng pagdidisiplina.

Naranasan mo na rin bang makurot sa singit ni lolo o ni lola dahil sa pagtatampisasw natin sa tubig ulan?

Nasubukan mo na rin bang makapagtamblingsa binti ng tatay mo? Naranasan mo na rin bang ma-taya sa larong "Langit,Lupa"? O di kaya'y nabigyan ng karangalan ng mga kaibigan na nakalaro mo sa tagutaguan bilang "Best In Hiding"?

Naranasan mo na rin bang madapa sa kalye dahil sa walang sawang pakikipaglaro mo sa iyong kalaro ng habulan, langit lupa, patintero, tukbang preso , taguan at iba pa?

Nasubukan mo na rin bang takasan ang iyong magulang makapaglaro lamang kahit na tanghaling tapat dahil sa walang sawa nilang pagpapaalala na "MATULOG KA TUWING TANGHALI PARA LUMAKI KA!"

O di kaya'y mabatukan ni kuya dahil sa pandaraya o pagpapaiyak mo sa iyong kalaro?

Naparinggan mo ba ang CD's ng iyong nanay na naglalaman ng kantang "Ang Pusa, nag-aabang, nag-aabang, hinabol ng pusa ang pobreng daga, sa takot nito'y lumusok sa lungga..."

At na-lss ka ba sa kantang " May tatlong bibe akong nakita, mataba, mapayat mga bibe, ngunit ang may pakpak sa likod na iisa, siya ang lider na nagsabi ng kwak, kwak, kwak..."

   Napalo man, nakurot sa singit, nabatukan, nangitim sa kakalaro nang tanghaling tapat at napakinggan ang korning ang pusa at bibe, hindi pa rin natin maipagkakailang maswerte tayo dahil pinagdaan natin ito. Sa panahong ngayon mahirap na ngang ibalik ang dati dahil isang modernong henerasyon na ang ating kinakaharap. Subalit hindi natin maipagkakailang napapangiti o napapatawa tayo sa tuwing babalikan natin ang mga karanasang ito.

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Group 6

Domingo, Mark Anthony

Jacobe, Dessa Mae

Perez, Jeff

Posilero, Jinky

Rubiano, Geremie

Tajan, Patrisha Willyn Mae

2 Biological Mothers and a Father: Scientifically Possible

  

Because of many advances and changes in our society, modification of the principle behind ‘family’ has to adapt also in order to maintain “civilized” and “ethical”. However, due to the recent progress in the field of science and medicine, some norms may be broken.

According to the study done by several scientists, the possibility of having two biological mothers is very high. No. IT IS VERY POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO BIOLOGICAL MOTHERS, ACTUALLY.  

Some of us have disabilities that can be inherited by our children, and some of these disabilities may also forbid us into having one. One of these cases is the failure of the mitochondria of the egg cell to function well. If the fertilized egg of the mother has malfunctioning mitochondria, the possibility of life is very low. But because of the idea of transplantation, other healthy mitochondria from the egg cell of another woman can be transplanted to the fertilized egg of the mother. The donor of the healthy mitochondria can also be considered as another biological mother beside to that of original one because they almost equally contribute to the survival of the baby. However, this practice may not be considered as genetic engineering and can be used to design babies because the genetic materials are not affected. Weird? Yes. Awesome? Incredible? Yes.

 It is certain that other people will see this as unlawful, immoral, unethical. It is ridiculous indeed to have three parents, biologically speaking, but it is more ridiculous to let a child die because he/she cannot have that mitochondrail transfer for the reason that other people won’t open their minds to this very possibility.

So we proved now that it is possible, the next issue will be the ownership of the baby. What if the donor mother insisted into being mother 2 or mother B? or even to be the mother A? The original parents will definitely disagree. The whole society will also disagree because it is ruining the norms of the family! Legally, she can’t have the baby. The original parents will have the full custody of the child. But is it painful to not have the right to your flesh and blood (and mitochondria)? Yes. Definitely. 

Group 3

SS10 Z

Nunez, Vanessa Janine R.
Red, Ramces Brayalle T.
Ojos, Kevin H.

Alabin, Glassyl R.

Calip, Kaye Paula Ara M.
Moraleta, Raniella

2 Biological Mothers and a Father: Scientifically Possible

  

Because of many advances and changes in our society, modification of the principle behind ‘family’ has to adapt also in order to maintain “civilized” and “ethical”. However, due to the recent progress in the field of science and medicine, some norms may be broken.

According to the study done by several scientists, the possibility of having two biological mothers is very high. No. IT IS VERY POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO BIOLOGICAL MOTHERS, ACTUALLY.  

Some of us have disabilities that can be inherited by our children, and some of these disabilities may also forbid us into having one. One of these cases is the failure of the mitochondria of the egg cell to function well. If the fertilized egg of the mother has malfunctioning mitochondria, the possibility of life is very low. But because of the idea of transplantation, other healthy mitochondria from the egg cell of another woman can be transplanted to the fertilized egg of the mother. The donor of the healthy mitochondria can also be considered as another biological mother beside to that of original one because they almost equally contribute to the survival of the baby. However, this practice may not be considered as genetic engineering and can be used to design babies because the genetic materials are not affected. Weird? Yes. Awesome? Incredible? Yes.

 It is certain that other people will see this as unlawful, immoral, unethical. It is ridiculous indeed to have three parents, biologically speaking, but it is more ridiculous to let a child die because he/she cannot have that mitochondrail transfer for the reason that other people won’t open their minds to this very possibility.

So we proved now that it is possible, the next issue will be the ownership of the baby. What if the donor mother insisted into being mother 2 or mother B? or even to be the mother A? The original parents will definitely disagree. The whole society will also disagree because it is ruining the norms of the family! Legally, she can’t have the baby. The original parents will have the full custody of the child. But is it painful to not have the right to your flesh and blood (and mitochondria)? Yes. Definitely. 

Group 3

SS10 Z

Ang Lola kong Gwapa

Napakalaking usap-usapan ang sumabog nang mabalita ang “Mommy D and the BF”, marami ang natawa, marami ang nagulat, marami ang humanga at marami rin ang hindi nasiyahan sa narinig na balita dahil sa hindi raw ito ang “normal” sa lipunang kanilang ginagalawan. “Nakakadiri, yuck, iww,” yan ang mga karaniwang salitang  maririnig mo kung banggitin mo ang balitang ito.  Subalit, ano nga ba talaga ang normal? Paano mo masasabing normal ang isang bagay? Dahil ba sa ito ang idinikta ng lipunan mo, ito na rin ang normal sa iyo?

Sa murang edad na limampu’t apat, namatay ang lolo kong si Emilio (hindi tunay na pangalan). Naiwan niya ang kaniyang pinakamamahal na asawa, ang lola kong si Merly (hindi tunay na pangalan), na noo’y mahigit apat na  pung taong gulang na rin. Namuhay si lola ng mag-isa ngunit may suporta pa rin na nagmumula sa kanyang mga anak. Masasabing hindi nagkulang at hindi siya pinabayaan ng mga ito. Sa simpleng paraan para mabuhay, nagdadala si lola ng kaniyang mga lutong meryenda tulad ng toron, banana cue, buko juice at iba pa sa kantina ng kanyang anak upang maibenta sa mga trabahador sa isang malaking planta na kilala  sa Bataan.           

Hanggang sa isang araw, nakilala ni Lola Merly itong si Luis (di tunay na pangalan), isang gwardya sa planta. Siya ay matangkad, medyo maitim, medyo matipuno at higit sa lahat ay bata pa. Siya ay nakatira lamang sa barracks na inilaan ng may-ari ng planta dahil siya ay mula sa pa sa probinsya ng La Union. Bunga ng kahirapan ng buhay, napilitan siyang pumunta pa sa Bataan upang magtrabaho.

  Araw- araw nang nagkikita ang dalawa, ang batang si Luis at ang may edad ko nang lola na si Lola Merly. Tumagal ang panahon, mababatid mong mayroon na silang relasyon. Relasyong hindi gaya ng relasyon ng isang ina sa anak, kundi relasyon ng isang lalaki at isang babae na may mutual na pagtingin sa isa’t isa. Dumating ang araw na dinala na ni Lola Merly si Luis sa kanyang bahay nang walang pagkonsulta man lang sa mga anak nito. Sa di inaasahang pagkakataon, nagpang-abot ang mga anak ni Lola Merly at si Luis sa bahay nito. Doon na inamin ng dalawa na sila ay may relasyon.

Sa una ay hindi tinanggap ng mga anak ni Lola Merly si Luis sa mga kadahilanang (1) peperahan lamang raw nito si lola at sa huli’y iiwan rin, (2) bata pa ito at hindi sila kaaya-aya sa paningin ng mga tao sa kanilang lugar , (3) magiging pabigat lamang raw ito sa kanya, at huli (4) anim ang anak ni lola Merly at ang lahat ng ito ay nakakatanda kay Luis maliban sa bunso ngunit mabigat man sa kalooban nila ay wala na silang magawa kundi pumayag na lang sa nais mangyari ng kanilang ina.

Ngayon, ang lola kong si Merly ay mahigit anim na pung  taong gulang na at si Luis ay mag- aapat na pung taong gulang pa lamang. Tinanggap na ng  mga anak ni Lola Merly si Luis bilang pamilya dahil sa ipinamalas nito. Maging ang mga taong nakapalibot kina Lola Merly at Luis ay natanggap  na rin ang sitwasyon bilang normal na bagay na lamang. Sa ganitong perspektibo, masasabi ba nating panahon ang nagdidikta kung ano ang normal? Masasabi rin ba natin na dapat natin hadlangan ang mga bagay na sa tingin natin ay kakaiba? Hadlangan ang mga bagay dahil wala itong benepisyo sa atin?

 Sa mahigit labinlimang taon na pagsasama ni Lola Merly at ni Luis, pinatunayan ni Luis na mali lahat ang sinabi ng mga anak ni Lola Merly noon. Hindi man humihinto ang suporta ng mga anak sa kanilang ina, nagtatrabaho pa rin si Luis upang mabuhay ang aking lola, siya rin ang nagsisilbing personal nurse ni lola Merly ngayong matanda na ito at humihina na ang katawan. Siya rin ang driver nito na kasakasama niya kahit saan magpunta at higit sa lahat siya ang asawa nito na nagsisilbing lakas at inspirasyon na katuwang niya sa pang-araw araw na pamumuhay.

SocSci 10 Z Group 4.
Jaeger Dwayne Tamara,
Mike Gyro Paras,
Anthony Teofilo Jr.,
GiannaCapacia,
Faye Mendoza,
Jerome Gabriel.

Our Values in Danger

Filipinos are hospitable for when a guest came to visit our homes, we welcome them with open arms. Bringing out the new things we have just for the guest to use, and every time a guest is present we immediately prepare foods for them. Respect for Elders is a big for each Filipino. We are always courteous both in words and in actions to the people of older age. Every time each one of us talks to an elder we always use “po” at “opo” as a sign of respect to them and “pagmamano” is also a sign of how we respect our elders. It all depends on the environment that the child grew up and on how his/her parents value the Filipino values. It may as well be that worldwide changes of the world that caused these values to be forgotten.

Children who have access to the modern media have deteriorated to little values at all. Major factors as adulterated minds of children of their age, comedians who use disrespect as a funny thing, and many other factors.

Our society today does not value family nearly as much as in the old days because people usually spend their time using media technology instead of spending that time together as a family.

As people become more and more obsessed with media, the more our morals and values decline over the past years. Every minute of the day, the society is completely consumed by technology nowadays. Morals and values are being taught in today’s generation through the media whether people notice it or not.

We can’t stop change for it’s the only constant thing in the world. Change is already a part of us. If we won’t change we won’t be able to conquer the incoming challenges.

REFERENCE:

Dubois, L. (2014). Values and Morals, Past and Present. Retrieved April 10, 2015, from                           http://anashell.com/anashell/2014/07/21/values-morals-past-present/

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GROUP 6:

Domingo, Mark Anthony

Jacobe, Dessa Mae

Perez, Jeff

Posilero, Jinky

Rubiano, Geremie

Tajan, Patrisha Willyn Mae

Is Virginity still Important among Filipinos?

The arrival of Spaniards marks the establishment of Christianity in the Philippines and since then, Roman Catholicism became the religion of majority of Filipinos. And, like any other religion, it also became the society’s basis of morality.
One of the things considered a sin in Christianity and some religions is “sex before marriage”. However, considering the shows portrayed nowadays in the media and a more “freedom-loving” generation, can we still say that virginity is important for Filipinos?
According to a study made by the University of the Philippines - Population Institute, “majority of the Filipino youth aged 15-24 disapproved premarital sex behavior. Only 7.6% of girls and 18.4% of boys approved of girls' premarital sex. 40.6% of boys approved of boys' premarital sex. Approval of premarital sex was mainly found among older youth and youth who lived away from parents, attended nonsectarian schools, rarely attended church services, frequently went to discos and other night clubs, and smoked, drank alcohol, or used drugs. Approval was also higher among those who had siblings, had lower socioeconomic status, and experienced parental marital instability. Single parenthood was acceptable. Youths who were raised by single fathers were more likely to disapprove of girls' premarital sex behavior. Youths who were raised by single mothers expressed higher approval of premarital sex. 69.3% of females and 46.3% of males felt that an unmarried youth with an unplanned pregnancy should keep the baby regardless of marital status. 46.2% of males and 26.8% of females thought the girl should marry the father of the child. Few agreed with adoption or abortion. Acceptance of a young unmarried mother was higher among males, those married, and those who were older, lived in the city, ever lived in a dormitory, attended Catholic coed or nonsectarian schools, were Catholic, and attended religious services often. Peer groups and family were perceived as supportive and reassuring in difficult situations. Catholicism and schools were also considered to have strong positive influences on youths. (UPPI, 1995)”
However, this study was conducted in November 1995, about 2 decades ago and a lot of things may have changed since then. But, we also have to note how family, religion, and school strongly influences a child’s attitude towards sex.  This can also be viewed as a possible solution to the increasing number of unwanted pregnancy and abortion. But, since government control is very limited in family and religion, schools can be a good tool for the government’s drive against unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Sex education must be a part of all schools’ curriculum.

Reference:
University of the Philippines Population Institute. 1995. Young Adult Fertility and Sexuality Study II. Retrieved from http://www.popline.org/node/294348.

Group 5

Single Parenthood

            Single parenthood is already prevalent here in the Philippines. A lot of children are already accustomed in this kind of family setting. Well, single parenting or sole parenthood according to the Oxford dictionary is a person bringing up a child without a partner. While under the Philippine law, an individual can be considered a single or solo parent, according to Republic Act. No. 8972 or The solo parent’s welfare act of 2000, (1) if a woman who gives birth as a result of rape and other crimes against chastity even without a final conviction of the offender provided, that the mother keeps and raises the child; (2) parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to death of spouse; (3) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood while the spouse is detained or is serving sentence for a criminal conviction for at least one (1) year; (4) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to physical and/or mental incapacity of spouse as certified by a public medical practitioner; (5) Parent left solo or alone with the responsibility of parenthood due to legal separation.

            A lot of children here in the Philippines grew up being raised by only one of his/her parent; it is either his/her mother or father. Being raised by only a single parent has its own advantages and disadvantages. This kind of family setting is still functional, but family members may feel that it is not when something went wrong or something did not fall into place. It is both difficult for the parent and child/ren to be in this kind of set-up, but it also depends on how they end up in this kind of family setting. There are various reasons why they fall into this kind of set-up, as stated in R.A. No. 8972.

            If the child is a product of rape, and the mother does not show any care and love towards the child, instead she showed anger, hatred, and continuous blame to the child for her ruined future, it may not be necessarily good for the upbringing of the child. It may result to behavioral challenges that the child may find difficult to address. On the other hand, if the child is a product of rape, but the mother raised the child with tender love and care, there is a higher possibility of good result that can be seen on the child.

            If the single parenthood is a result of the death of a spouse it is difficult to cope up both for the remaining parent and to the child itself. It will be hard emotionally and also financially. It will be hard for the child because he/she will lose one of the persons who take care and guide him. The person who was always be there for him, the one who taught him/her various values and life lessons. On the other hand, it will also be hard for the widow because he/she will lose the person who is always his/her partner in life in good times and in bad times, his/her lending hand, and the person whom he/she can always rely on. It will not only be hard emotionally for the persons who were left behind, but it will also be hard financially, especially if before both of the parents were working.

            It will be another story if the single parenthood is a result of annulment or separation. It will be more complicated for both the parents and the child. Hearing the news that his/her parents will be separated for good can be devastating for the child. It will be hard to accept that the persons whom you look up to have grown tired of each other and have fallen out of love. It will also be hard to choose between his/her mother and father, who will he/she choose to have his/her custody. And if in the future one of his/her parents will have another family, it will also be hard for the child, maybe he/she cannot bear the pain to see his/her mother or father with another family, the family that he/she wish they have. It may not be that hard financially in this case if the other parent is still giving financial support to his/her child.

            And lastly if the sole parenthood is a result of pre-marital pregnancy and the father of the child does not marry the childbearing mother. It will be hard emotionally and financially. It will be hard for the mother because she will not have a partner in raising the child, and it may also be hard financially if the father does not give financial support for the child. It will also be hard for the child to grow up without a father figure, especially if his father does not want to acknowledge him/her.

            Being a single parent is hard, but the parent is not the only one who feels the difficulty. We should also consider the fact that the child also suffers a great deal of pain. But being a single parent is not really full of negativity, because even though there is only one parent it is still a functional family. And besides it is not only the spouse that can help the parent raise his/her child, his/her family of orientation can help him/her raise the child. We should not bully those children who are product of this kind of family, instead we should treat them normally. We should not judge those people who are single parent, instead we should be proud of them, because they are able to raise their child all by themselves.  

SocSci 10 Z Group 4

Jaeger Dwayne Tamara, 

Mike Gyro Paras, 

Anthony Teofilo Jr., 

GiannaCapacia, 

Faye Mendoza, 

Jerome Gabriel.

The Long Distance Dilemma

            The Long Distance Dilemma

            "Absence makes the heart grows fonder, doesn't it?" This quote was famously said by Simon Van Booy and was the main quote that inspired me to look about Long Distance Relationships and ask the question: "Are long distance relationships fundamentally different between the 'short distance' ones and are there positive effects of longs distance relationships?"

            Long Distance Relationships or LDR is a term that is commonly used by couples who live far apart. It may be because of various reasons, such as one is attending school or work in a different place or perhaps the couple actually lived far away from each other from the very beginning and only met because of modern technologies such as: Video Calling and Instant Messaging.

            So are LDRs actually different?

            Strikingly, yes. A research done by Cornell and Queens University in 2013 showed that Long Distance Relationships are actually more healthier than their 'short distance' counterparts by saying that although couples in LDRs don't usually talk with each other that often, somehow it made their bond tighter by having occasional intimate conversations with each other. Which makes a rather strange point that geographically close couples don't actually have that much intimacy with each other when compared to LDRs. Another point is that the absence of your partner do not make the relationship go sour, rather it strengthens it. By having the couples not deal with day to day stuff. It makes them focus on what's important such as making each other's time special. Another is that through distance, it makes the couple trust each other. As LDR couples literally take a leap of faith with their partner since they have no choice but to and this attitude makes people with trust issues more trusting with their partner. The last point that the research brings up is that LDR makes a person independent and interdependent. As it is explained that because LDR creates a situation wherein a person is not around with his loved one it makes that person deal with his/her issues more independently when compared to the 'short distance' ones and makes them recognize the world around them and not focus too much on what they have but rather on the world where they belong and everything in it.

            In the end, Long Distance Relationships are not that dramatic kind of relationship that we usually see in television and movies. But, it is something that people who haven't experienced such must look into as it shows valuable traits that most of us forget nowadays. Such as intimate communication and trust between each other. Showing that absence really do make the heart grow fonder.

References:

Jiang, L., & Hancock, J. (2013). Absence Makes the Communication Grow Fonder: Geographic           Separation, Interpersonal Media, and Intimacy in Dating Relationships. Journal of                       Communication, 556-577. Retrieved April 8, 2015, from                                                             http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jcom.12029/full

Dargie, E., Blair, K., Goldfinger, C., & Pukall, C. (n.d.). Go Long! Predictors of Positive                        Relationship Outcomes in Long Distance Dating Relationships. Journal of Sex &                 

Marital Therapy, 131125085821006-131125085821006. Retrieved April 8, 2015, from                  http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2013.864367#.VSUc8PmUf84

Group 3

Nunez, Vanessa Janine R.

Red, Ramces Brayalle T.

Ojos, Kevin H.

Alabin, Glassyl R.

Calip, Kaye Paula Ara M.

Moraleta, Raniella