Isulong ang mabuting pagbabago, pagbabagong pangmatagalan.

            Sa panahon ngayon maraming pagbabago. Pagbabago na minsan ginugusto natin, minsan di natin matanggap. Pagbabago na minsan nakabubuti sa atin at minsan naman ay hindi. Hindi natin masasabi ang maidudulot ng ilang pagbabago na sa ati’y nangyayari. Alam ko na noong mga unang panahon, napaniwala tayo sa ideolohiya ng “forever” sa pag-ibig, ngunit sa henerasyon ngayon, nagiging isang malaking pag-uusap na ito.

            Uso sa mga kabataan ngayon na laging sinasabi na “walang forever, maghihiwalay din kayo”. Alam kong dahilan nito na ang pakikipagrelasyon ay nagiging libangan na lamang ng iba, at kapag nagsawa na ay maghihiwalay na. Samakatuwid, madali na lang sa ibang kabataan na tapusin ang relasyon na kanilang pinaghandaan at napagkasunduan. Kung magpapatuloy ang ganitong pamamaraan, lagi na lang bang sawi o malungkot ang magiging resulta ng pagmamahalan ngayon?

            Maisasatulad ito sa ibang mga mag-asawa na kahit sumumpa na ng pang-habang buhay na pagsasama ay naghihiwalay pa rin sila. Dulot ba ito ng hindi pagiging kuntento sa isa’t-isa? O dahil may gusto silang nakikita sa iba na matagal na niyang hinahanap sa asawa niya.

Tuwing magkukwento ang mga nakakatatanda  tungkol sa buhay pag-ibig nila ay tunay na nagbibigay ito ng inspirasyon sa bawat isa. Kadalasan ay naiisip natin na madalang na ulit mangyari ang mga ganito. Uso na ang mga pamilyang mag-isa na lang tinataguyod ng ama o ina nila na taliwas sa kaisipan noon.

Maraming mga bagay na nakakaapekto sa relasyon ng mga magkasintahan pero naniniwala ako na pagmamahalan ang siyang magbubuklod sa mga tao upang magtungo sa kaisipan ng “forever”. Matuto tayong makuntento sa kung anong meron sa atin o sa kanya at sana matanggap natin na walang perpekto sa mundong ito. Kung patuloy tayong magpapaalipin sa mga kagustuhan natin na humanap ng mga bagay na alam mo na wala sa kanya, walang patutunguhan ang lahat. Kapag nangako na kayo para sa isa’t-isa ay panatilihin niyo na lamang na nag-iinit ang inyong pagmamahalan at piliting paghusayan ang mga bagay na gusto niyo sa isa’t-isa upang ating maibalik, kahit sa mundong ito lamang, ang pagmamahalan na nagtatagal ng “forever”.

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SocSci10Z Group 4.

Jaeger Dwayne Tamara, Mike Gyro Paras, Anthony Teofilo Jr., Gianna Capacia, Faye Mendoza, Jerome Gabriel.

“Mothers know best"

            “Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else's happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is...and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”
― Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm

                       But what if, it turns the other way round?

            I first met this family seven years ago. During that time, the single mother has only two children. Three years later, came another baby and just a year ago, a new life was added in their population.

            She has four children now, with two ex-lovers (I can’t say husbands because she didn’t marry either of them) and now living with the biological father of the last two children. Her sister claims that the mother chose to abandon the father of her first child simply because the guy had become sterile. Though the man can pretty well support her and their baby, she preferred to abandon him with their child because of her selfish reason which is the thought that the man can no longer help her produce a baby.

            After they separated, she “fell in love” with another guy. They lived together and she got pregnant with her second child. Their affair was short-lived because the man had died leaving her and her babies alone.

            You know what happened next. She found another man who was able to accept the fact that she already has two kids with different fathers. They were able to have no only one but two babies. Her new “husband” is a contractual worker, earning 200php per day, which is not able to support the whole family considering that they already have four children.

            She tried to look for a job. Fortunately, her sister was able to refer her in a factory that pays satisfactorily. But to her sister’s dismay, she didn’t last long in that occupation. She just attended the three-day training that paid 200php a day then had gone AWOL leaving a few debts in the canteen of the factory and making her sister pay for what she owed. Well, that is not the first time that thing happened and definitely not the last. She had tried working before but she just can’t seem to make herself last in a job. Employers are tired of her.

            We are questioning how can she be a good mother to her kids? Those stated above are not the only reasons why we doubt her capability to satisfy the needs of the children.

            She is a drunkard, was a drug user (unsure if she still does it up to this day), and a gambler. She has a friend who often goes to their house and bring alcoholic drinks. Each time she gets drunk, which is frequently, she and her live-in partner quarrels and keep their neighbors wide awake. Eventually, they get physical and the guy ends up sleeping in jail.

            On the gambling part, every time she has money or the guy hands over his salary, she plays “tong its”. One time, her baby was “sick” and someone gave her 400php. Instead of bringing the child to the hospital, she went gambling.

            The guy she’s with right now is just the same as her –a gambler and a drunkard. Their only difference is that her partner has a job and takes care of all the household chores.

            These things have a great impact on the kids. From what I can see, they are neglected. All four of them are malnourished. I don’t even know if they have an unending colds or if it’s something worse already. They seldom bath for goodness’ sake!

            The first child often gets in to trouble in school. Just a couple of weeks ago, he punched a girl on the face. The teacher called for both parents but his mother did not even bother to show up in school. Not only that, she just let him go to the computer shop without studying. Doesn’t she worry that her child might not be able to pass this time? Last school year, he was barely passing.

            On the other hand, the second one goes to school twice a week at most. The third one which is a girl is already at the age for kindergarten but she doesn’t send her to school. She says she wants her children to graduate high school and if they’re lucky enough, even in college but how will that happen if she doesn’t even motivate them to attend their classes?

            Yes, I am in no position to question her but the children are the ones who are gaining nothing. The money she gets from the 4Ps program of the government does not even go to the kids. She spends them all on cigarettes, alcohol and gambling.

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Group 2

Anna Mae Alamag

Jeska Nicole Cabiles

Dally Delos Santos

Rensea Mae De Vera

Isabella Herreria

Feby Andrea Laroco

Danna Ruiz

Papa, Huwag Po!

Sa ulo ng mga balita!

…Ama, pinagsamantalahan ang anak

…Dalawang magkapatid, ginahasa ng tatay

…Ama, ginahasa ang anak: dalagita, patay

            Mga krimeng malimit nating marinig at napapanood sa telebisyon at radyo at minsa’y nababasa sa mga pahayagan. Isang katotohanan na kasalukuyang nangyayari sa ibang pamilyang Pilipino. Ito’y maituturing na isang krimeng hindi natin lubos akalain; na ang sariling ama ang siyang pangunahing may gawa at ang kaniyang mga anak ang biktima.

            Sadyang hindi nga sapat ang lukso ng dugong dumadaloy sa pagitan ng anak at ama upang limitahan ang pangangailangan sa isang lalaki. Marami na nga ang mga naglalabasang balita tungkol sa mga pang-aabuso ng isang magulang sa anak, at marami rin siguro sa atin ang nagtatanong kung paano ito nangyayari. Isang demonyo kung ating maituturing! Hindi niya ba naisip na galing sa kanyang laman ang pinagsasamantalahang anak?

            Subalit ano nga ba ang puno’t dulo at dahilan nito? Dahil ba parating wala ang ina sa bahay?, O di kaya kasalanan din ng anak na kinulangan sa tela ng damit o sobra kung magpaganda kaya naakit ang tatay? Dahil ba walang panlaban ang anak sapagkat siya ay babae? , O maaring hindi na napupunan ng kanyang asawa ang kanyang sekswal na pangangailangan kaya bumabaling na lang sa anak? Di naman kaya takot ang nanay sa kanyang asawa kaya wala siyang magawa para maipagtanggol ang kanyang anak? Kahit ano pa man ang dahilan, isa pa rin itong hindi makataong gawain.

            Malaki ang epekto ng panggagahasa sa biktima lalo na sa aspetong sikolohikal. Sinisira ng panggagahasa ang integridad ng anak o nawawala ang pakiramdam ng pagiging buo.  Ito ay maaring magdulot ng depresyon sa biktima, at malaking takot na maulit muli ang pangyayaring ito. Isa pang epekto ng panggagahasa ay ang pagkawala ng tiwala ng anak na ginahasa sa kanyang ama. Naiiba ang depinisyon ng anak sa salitang kaligtasan at proteksyon sapagkat imbes na ang tatay ang magsisilbing proteksyon ng anak, siya pa ang nagiging dahilan kung bakit nawawala ang kaligtasan ng anak. Ito rin ay nagbibigay ng mga sugat na kailanma’y hindi maghihilom.

Tulad na lang ng halimbawa ng isa naming kagrupo tungkol sa karanasan ng kanyang kaibigan. “Naalala ko yung kinuwento sa akin ng isa kong kaibigan na babae. Siguro dahil sa mapagkakatiwalaan naman ako at baka di na niya kayang itago yung galit at depresyon na kanyang nararanasan kaya nasambit niya sa akin yung kanyang karanasan sa kanyang ama. Nitong nakaraang taon lang ay nagbirthday siya at kasalukuyan na siyang 18 ngayon.Hindi ko na siya papangalanan. Tatlo silang magkakapatid. Puro babae. Siya yung panganay. Tapos yung nanay niya ay may malubhang sakit at palagi na lang siyang nakahiga sa kama kasi nga dahil sa kanyang sakit. Yung tatay nila yung siyang nagpapaaral at tumutustos sa lahat ng gastusin sa kanilang tahanan. Tapos noong nag-18 na siya parang napapansin niya na parang iba yung mga tingin ng tatay niya sa kanya. Tapos parang araw-araw na raw ay parang mas naging ‘clingy’ yung tatay niya. Palagi daw niyang tinatanong kung may kailangan daw ba siyang bayaran sa school ganyan. Tapos isang gabi daw, habang tulog ang lahat, yung tatay niya ay pumasok sa kwarto niya tapos nilock yung pinto. Kinabahan daw siya hanggang sa palapit ng palapit yung tatay sa kanya at sa mga sandaling iyon daw ay pinagsamantalahan siya ng tatay niya. Wala daw siyang magawa kasi nung mga oras na iyon. Gusto man daw niyang sumigaw kaso hindi niya magawa dahil baka magising yung mga nakakabatang kapatid niya at yung nanay niyang may sakit. Hindi rin daw niya maisumbong sa mga kamag-anak niya kasi nga yung tatay daw yung nagpapaaral sa kanya at siyang pangunahing naghahanap-buhay sa kanila at yung gumagastos sa pagpapagamot ng kanyang nanay. Gustong-gusto niya ding makapagtapos sa pag-aaral. Paulit-ulit daw na nangyayari yung panghahalay ng kanyang ama. Hanggang sa nagdesisyon siya na isumbong na ito sa kanyang tito at tita. Tapos ngayon ay nakakulong na yung tatay. Kaso yung mga pinsan niya daw na lalaki, parang nagpaparamdam rin daw na gusto nilang makipagtalik sa kanya. Umaakbay-akbay daw sila sa kanya. Tapos yun umiiwas na lang daw siya. Parang dahil daw dun, parang ang dumi-dumi na daw niyang babae. Kaso kailangan niyang magpakatatag at huwag madepress kasi may mga kapatid pa siyang kailangan niyang tulungan. Ngayon ay nasa pangangalaga na sila ng kanilang tito at tita tapos yung nanay nila ay pumanaw na.”

Ang panggagahasa ay isang karumal-dumal na krimen. Dapat na maparusahan ang lahat ng mga gumawa o gumagawa nito. Sa lahat ng mga biktima ng pangagahasa na nananahimik lamang dahil sa takot o hiya, panahon na para magsumbong upang sila ay maparusahan at hindi na muli maulit ang nakagigimbalang pangyayari. Walang mangyayari kung hindi kikilos. Walang magbabago kung mananahimil. Walang mapaparusahan kung walang magsusumbong. Kaya kung hustisya ang hanap, ating ipaglaban!

Reference:

Bonnay, J. (2011, March 12). The Hidden Consequences of Rape. Retrieved from                                     http://self-regeneration.com/2011/03/12/the-hidden-consequences-of-child-rape/

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Group 6

Domingo, Mark Anthony

Jacobe, Dessa Mae

Perez, Jeff

Posilero, Jinky

Rubiano, Geremie

Tajan, Patrisha Willyn Mae

A Nation Without Parents

                My father started working as a seafarer even before I could to talk. When I was around two or three years old, I didn't seem to care much. I was even happy since I had the opportunity to get such awesome robots and toy cars which my playmates envied. However, these material things didn't seem to contain my happiness as I grew older. I started to ask why we had this kind of setup. Why can’t my father work locally? But my mother was always there to explain that he’s doing it for us; for our future.

                It was hard at first, but eventually, I started to realize that this is the reality I needed to endure. Knowing that all my cousins in my father side and some of my schoolmates are also OFW children made me feel that we have a normal family just like anybody else. They became my closest basis that there are a lot of us who experience this kind of setup. In fact, according to a Philippine Star article, there are 11 million Filipinos working overseas (Bondoc, 2014). That’s over a tenth of the population. But, is this how it should be? Do we just need to accept that our homeland can’t provide enough jobs for 1 out of 10 Filipinos?

                 Having this kind of setup is becoming more ubiquitous as the government continues to be idle on finding a solution to the continuing price increase of commodities and low salary of workers. 429 pesos per day or 10,296 pesos for a 24-day work is the current minimum wage in NCR. It is even lower in other regions (DOLE, 2015). According to the data of Philippine Commission on Women, poorest households have an average of 5.2 children. 10,296 pesos is barely enough for the needs of 5 children.

                Suppose a certain Filipino did not finish school and end up doing blue-collar jobs. In Taiwan, they could earn a minimum of NT$18,780 or 26, 101 pesos per month. Almost 3 times bigger than what they could earn in the Philippines. No wonder why some Filipinos can’t resist the opportunities abroad. I can’t also blame my father if he prefers working overseas since he could earn a lot bigger for the same amount of work he will do if he works locally.

                But if we want change in the system, we need to choose a leader with exemplary leadership skills and great love for the country to spearhead the change we want. We must remember that society is not and will never be constant. A recent article in the Philippine Daily Inquirer states that the Philippines is no longer the “sick man of Asia”, because of consistently high economic growth for the past years, but we must take note that our economy is still highly dependent on OFW remittances. Yes, we may no longer be the “sick man of Asia”, but we don’t have to wait for the time when our next tagline is “A nation without parents”, right?

References:

Bondoc, J. (2014, October 6). OFW experience: At what cost to family? Philippine Star. Retrieved from http://www.philstar.com/opinion/2014/10/06/1376935/ofw-experience-what-cost-family

De Vera, B.O. & Remo, A.R. (2015). PH no more the ‘sick man of Asia’. Philippine Daily Inquirer. Retrieved from http://business.inquirer.net/185775/ph-no-more-the-sick-man-of-asia

Department of Labor and Employment. (2015). Summary of Current Regional Daily Minimum Wage Rates. Retrieved from http://www.nwpc.dole.gov.ph/pages/statistics/stat_current _regional.html

OFW Guide. (2013). Minimum Salary of Filipino Workers in Tawian Increases. Retrieved from http://www.ofwguide.com/article_item-1967/Taiwan-Increases-Salary-of-Filipino-Workers.html#ixzz2Q326RMKE

Philippine Commission on Women. (2014). Population, families and household statistics. Retrieved from http://www.pcw.gov.ph/statistics/201405/population-families-and-household-statistics

SocSci10 Z Group 5


Enriquez, Ryan
Flores, Nathaniel Lorenz
Galido, Noel Joseph
Jimenez, Rica
Paican, Maria Luzviminda
Vergara, Bryan

Rumination about Family Violence

Rumination about Family Violence

  How many broken families have been there lately? Sometimes I want to ask myself, why is it that happens so much today? Why are there so many married couples fighting each other over things that they could have easily resolved together. Are there any other factors that lead on to it?

Economic standing, is the first that came to me. As someone who lived in a middle class family. I could see why this could be the case. People cannot see the bigger picture about their society and therefore their economics. That when sudden things happen, it will always be a shock for them. That somehow, fate has bested them and have no outlet to let it out, aside their family. Troubles like these could have been easily resolved if one is willing to listen to another, but in some cases they don't. Which leads to more arguments which sometimes spirals down to violence. With this in mind, we could see that economics is not the reason why families fight. It is merely a catalyst. What we want to see is the reason why they don't listen.

Men developed ears so that they could listen to their environment and make decisions based on what is there. This idea sounds so modern but yet primal, still we cannot know why they don't listen. Perhaps it is not about the ears but what is inside them, emotions; specifically negative ones, that stir inside you and tells you what to do. Maybe it is these things that tell them not to listen. But why? Conflict of interest between two parties? Pride? Jealousy? We could think of more reasons why negative emotions conjure but would not come up to an answer. Should we rest there? That negative emotions are the reason why family violence exist? No. I cannot rest myself to conclude on something that cannot hold water as emotions cannot be reasoned out with and might as well be a perfect excuse on this kind of act.

While on this dilemma, an idea came into my mind. Maybe violence is a conscious choice. Something incited by stirred emotions and amplified by recent events that are directly threatening the family. It is a choice because emotion alone cannot make a man kill someone over a spilled soda. It takes in a deeper level of consideration before a man judges to do so. Therefore making it a choice and not an impulsive reaction. Hence, listening is a choice that is decided by man, simply because man cannot hurt somebody just because you're feel hopeless or your family is in jeopardy. Requiring a deeper level of consideration to resort to violence.

Family Violence is a created by man that have stirred emotions, having those amplified by recent events that could threaten him or his family and is a choice by him.

Reference List:

http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-definition/stirring%20of%20[emotion]

https://books.google.com.ph/books?id=nb4NEKE6k_cC&pg=PA186&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q&f=false

http://www.nytimes.com/1999/06/01/health/for-good-health-it-helps-to-be-rich-and-important.html

Group 3: SS10 Z

Nunez, Vanessa Janine R.
Red, Ramces Brayalle T.
Ojos, Kevin H.

Alabin, Glassyl R.

Calip, Kaye Paula Ara M.

Moraleta, Raniella

Marriage

Marriage. What really is the meaning of marriage? We all came from different places and grew from different roots that is why marriage can be seen in many different ways. One individual may define it as a bond between two people of sex because he/ she grew up in this kind of setting but another may view it as something else. You? How do you define and see marriage? Marriage varies from perspective of one person to another. Like family, marriage is another important social institution. Marriage is one of the most ancient, important, universal and indispensable social institution which has been in existence since the inception of human civilization. As a stable social institution it binds two opposite sexes and allows them to live as husband and wife.

            Have you ever seen an old couple who are together for many years but still laugh, joke, share sweet thoughts together and growing old together? Or a couple who yell, and have fights and arguments with each other but their bond remained for a lot of years and still counting?

            Here, we will discuss about a research on marriage of David H. Olson and Blaine J. Fowers about the five types of marriage using the marital inventory ENRICH.

Devitalized couples are observed to be dissatisfied with their marriage. The partners in this type of marriage have a poor communication and are not so good in resolving conflicts. And this type of marriage was observed that couples had considered divorce.

Conflicted couples are seemed to be moderately satisfied with their marriage.  The partners in this type of marriage are said to have struggle with communication and have some misunderstanding on areas of marriage. They also considered divorce but were no more likely to be separated.

Traditional couples are said to be the most satisfied of all groups in how they are guiding their children and parenting duties. They are also happy in their roles, that’s why they are performing well and feel respected by one another.

Harmonious couples agree with many things but still have lack of understanding in some areas like sex, parenting and etc. three fourths of the couples had considered divorce and 94% considered themselves satisfied overall.

Vitalized couples have a good communication and conflict resolution skills and are comfortable with each other. They are also the most satisfied couple type.

            Perhaps you would even notice what kind of couple your parents are or were. If you, yourself, are in a relationship right now and see where you are there, don’t fret. Just because you see yourself in one type doesn’t mean you will remain in that group forever. Things like this aren’t necessarily set in stone since the Earth was created and you were born. It can change. If you dislike where you are right now, perhaps knowing what kind of couple you are will help you go to the path that you both prefer. 

            You may not be the kind of couple that you wish to be now, but one day, I’m sure you’d be able to achieve your dream and live a good long life with your forever. 

Reference: https://www.prepare-enrich.com/pe_main_site_content/pdf/research/study6.pdf

Group 2

Feby Andrea Laroco

Isabella Herreria

Dally Delos Santos

Danna Ruiz

Rensea Mae De Vera

Anna Mae Alamag

DUAL-EARNERS

 Are you one of those children who wait late at night to see your parents come home?  Or the one waking up to find if they've already gone? Well if you’re not one of them, maybe you should think of putting yourself in their shoes.

One of those countries with a growing number of dual earners would be the Philippines. The usual setting of a Filipino Household is that the father is away trying to work for his family while the mother stays home to take care of their children, but that was before. Nowadays, due to the industrialization of our economy, we see more and more dual-earner families in the Philippines. The major reason for dual earners would be because a single parent's income is not enough to sustain the demands of everyday life. But with this in the picture, would it be that the children from before (with only one parent working) be the same as the children (with dual earning parents) today? Some, but not all, had an immense change of attitude, ranging from emotional instability due to lack of quality time with parents, to less attention to academic performance. With such extremes, as children being more and more delinquent but a noticeable benefit to this is that children became more independent.

One of our group mates shared a story about her family,which is a dual-earner. She’s 6^th out of the 8 children in their family. She talked about her sister, now 34 years old. “Lumaki yung ate ko sa lola namin dahil kailangang magtrabaho parehas ng mga magulang ko. Naisip ko yung naging epekto ng relasyon niya sa mga magulang namin at sa aming na ring mga kapatid niya. Sa buong buhay ko kasi, isang beses ko pa lamang siyang nakakasama sa pasko. Noong namatay yung lola ko, umuuwi siya sa amin kaso ilang beses lang sa isang taon at kung kelan niya lang maisipan. Parang hindi rin pamilya ang turing niya sa amin. Sabi nila kahit anong mangyari, lukso pa rin ng dugo ang mangingibabaw. Noong mga panahong kailangan namin ng pera (sa kasamaang palad siya lang ang mahihingan naming ng tulong), nagawa niyang lokohin sina nanay na may nangyari daw na masama sa kanya. Nasunugan daw siya kaya hindi siya makapagpadala. Siyempre bilang magulang, sinabi lang nila nanay na okay lang kahit wala siyang maibigay. Kaso bakit sa part niya hindi man lang siya nakonsensya? Siguro nga hindi namin siya masisisi kasi hindi rin niya naranasang makasama kami ng matagal. Pero ganun ba talaga ang epekto sa anak kapag malayo sa magulang?”

Another one of our group mates have a different experience in having a dual-earner family. She said “Sa situation ko kasi, mag-isang anak lang ako at my parents are both working. Pero hindi ko sila hate or whatever katulad sa mga palabas. Hindi naman sila yung super busy at laging overtime sa trabaho. 8 AM to 5 PM lang naman kasi sila sa work, so they have all night para asarin ako. Minsan pala si dad nag-oovernight, so ang ginagawa namin ni mommy manonood kami ng movies para hintayin si dad.”

With this, there is no doubt that all families are influenced by the social system, like in the shifting of single-earner to dual-earner because of the development of new norms and values of the culture. We could see this in Bronfenbrenner’s Bioecological Model of Human Development.

Given the circumstances of each child, each of their personalities or outlook in life will always depend on how the child was treated during childhood. Parents will always be the one responsible for the child’s behaviour.And parents should be flexible in balancing their priorities in their work and in their child so that the gap between the relationship of the parent and the child will not be too far away.

GROUP 6
Mark Anthony Domingo
Jeff Perez
Geremie Rubiano
Jinky Posilero
Dessa Mae Jacobe
Patrisha Willyn Mae Tajan

“Ang Tatay ko ay Nanay ko rin”

Ang isang pamilya ay binubuo ng isang ama, ina, at mga anak. Mayroon ding ama at anak lamang, ina at anak, at malawakang pamilya na nakabilang ang mga lolo at lola, tito at tita, pati na rin ang mga pinsan. Hindi lamang ang mga kadugo mo ang pwede mong ituring na pamilya, kundi pati na ang mga taong naging parte na ng buhay mo lalo na kung sila ay mahalaga sa iyo. Malaki ang responsibilidad ng isang pamilya, sila ang gumagabay sa iyo, tumutulong sa mga problema mo, at maski maliliit na bagay na iyong tinatahak ay kanila itong sinusuportahan, depende kung ito ay sa ikakabuti mo o ikakasama.

Sa panahon ngayon, marami ng nagsusulputang iba’t ibang kasarian, tulad na lamang ng “bakla o tomboy”. Dito sa Pilipinas, hinahadlangan ang tinatawag nilang Same Sex Marriage, dahil nga halos katoliko ang relihiyong bumabalot sa ating bansa. Hindi kasi sumasang-ayon ang simbahang katoliko sa mga ganyang mga usapin. Mayroon ding mga lalaking pusong babae na nakakapangasawa ng tunay na babae dahil na rin gusto nilang maranasan ang magka-anak at magkaroon ng sariling pamilya. Kaya nais kong ilahad sa inyo ang isang maliit na kwento na ako mismo ang nakasaksi.

Labing tatlong gulang ako ng makilala ko ang magulang ng kaibigan ko. Hindi normal ang kanilang pamilya kung maiituturing, naiiba. Ang haligi ng tahanan ay tinuturing ang sarili bilang ilaw din nito. Matikas, maginoo, isang amang mapagmahal ngunit sa kabila ng mga ganitong katangian, siya rin ay may pilantik na tulad ng sa babae. Oo, siya ay isang lalaki na kilos babae, “bakla” sabi ng karamihan. Noong unang nakita ko ang sistema ng kanilang pamilya hindi ako makapaniwala. Hindi pwede! Ang pamilya ay may tatay at nanay, babae  at lalaki, hindi pwedeng babae at bakla.  Imposible, sabi ng utak ko. Imposible, sabi ng ibang tao. Hindi moral, hindi makatao.

Paano kaya ang ganun? May nanay siya at ang tatay niya’y kumikilos bilang nanay din. Siguro nakakahiya. Marahil tinutukso lagi sila ng ibang tao dahil sa hindi karaniwang ayos ng kanilang pamilya. Siguro iniisip ng ibang tao na nakakasuka ang nangyayari. Naawa ako ngunit may tanong pa ring gumuguhit sa utak ko.

Lumipas ang mga panahon at naging malapit ako sa kanila. May mga araw na naroon ako sa bahay nila para bisitahin ang kaibigan ko. Nasaksihan ko kung paano gumalaw ang pamilya nila. Nasaksihan ko kung paano nagiging “tatay” ang amang pinagtatawanan ng ibang tao. Napagtanto ko, kumpara sa iba, mas naging mabuting tao ang lagi nilang pinag-uusap usapan at pinagtsitsismisan. Nagagawa niya ng maayos ang responsibilidad ng isang ama, maging pati na rin ang kalinga ng isang ina. Ngayong mulat na ako at may kamalayan na sa halos lahat ng nangyayari sa paligid ko, sa pag- ibig at mga anyo nito, mas naiintindihan ko na sila. Nagsisi akong naging katulad ako ng mga taong sarado ang isip sa realidad at purong husga ang lumalabas sa bibig. Mas nandiri ako sa sarili ko at sa ibang tao sapagkat naging sarado ako, kami, sa mga posibilidad ng buhay.

Hindi ko man natanong dati kung tanggap sila ng kanilang mga kamag-anak ngunit sa aking nasaksihan, maayos naman ang turing sa kanila. Makikita naman ang bakas ng pagtanggap sa kanila ng mga nakatatandang myembro ng pamilya. Nagkakaroon lamang ng konting problema sa mga bata na halatang iba na ang ikot ng mga isip. Kahit masakit ang mga naririnig nilang opinyon galing sa ibang tao ay patuloy pa rin sila sa kanilang buhay. Hindi man pangkaraniwan, ngunit alam kong punong puno din ng pagmamahal at kasiyahan tulad ng ating nakagisnang anyo ng pamilya at pagmamahalan.

Kung kaya’t huwag natin basta-bastang huhusgahan ang personalidad ng ibang tao. Babae man sila, lalaki, bakla, tomboy, o kahit ano pa man ang kanilang kasarian, ito ay ating tanggapin ng walang pag-aalinlangan. Dahil wala tayong karapatang makialam kung saan man o ano man ang kanilang napili o napusuang pagkatao.

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Nunez, Vanessa Janine R.

Ojos, Kevin H.

Alabin, Glassyl R.

Calip, Kaye Paula Ara M.

Red, Ramces Brayalle T.

One Home, Different Worlds

          I am a member of a family that you can call “close” in a sense that we do all have the same thing in mind – mind my own business. First things first, let me describe our family. Let us start with my parents. My father is an individual distributor of over the counter and prescribed type of drugs. He has been supporting us with that job from ever since I can remember. My mother on the other hand is an owner of a company, Red Chair Advertising. The company is a single proprietorship, which provides services that deals with promotions and relations, in short, advertising.

          Us, my siblings and me on the other hand, are all still under education. I am the eldest among the four of us. Following me is Justin; he is usually found inside his room minding his own business or in front of the TV, playing video games. Following him is Julian; a happy-go-lucky person and is usually just playing on his own. Next to him is our one-year-old baby boy, Joshua. Joshua is just usually the one making us all happy. We are all boys.

          Now the “close” state that I was talking about was, we are just living together in one home but never actually gathers together inside. We are just usually minding our own businesses. I can say that my brothers are even more close to their friends rather than most of the family members. My parents are usually busy with their work but my father finds time and ways to keep us close in some ways. Sometimes, he invites us to have lunch together outside in restaurants just to at least let us see each other’s face.

          Sometimes, I also do my part in making us close. I invite everyone to engaged in physical activities or invite everyone in what my brothers do best, play video games together. But behind this deficiency in our family, we never encountered a potential threat that would break our family apart because we all know that we need each other.

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SocSci10Z Group 4.
Jaeger Dwayne Tamara, Mike Gyro Paras, Anthony Teofilo Jr., Gianna Capacia, Faye Mendoza, Jerome Gabriel.

A Family’s Duties to Society

A Family’s Duties to Society

Have you ever wondered why family exists in the society? Is it really necessary to have one? How about the idea of a perfect family? When can we say that a particular family is functional or dysfunctional?  Maybe, not all of these questions have entered your mind but certainly, at least one of it is something you have asked at some point of your life. Perhaps when your parents have had a serious fight about something or when you heard your neighbors shouting to one another. You may be having these thoughts possibly when your parents did not allow you on joining an overnight camp or when you’re having a hard time that you think no one in your family would be interested to listen on your difficulties.

In this article we will try our best to give answer those questions. Hence, it might not be really enough to satisfy your inquiries but we hope that it could help somehow. Before we proceed to the main topic of this entry, the first thing we have to understand is the word family. The common definition of family is that it is a social group that involves two adult of both sexes who are socially approved of sexual relationships and children, either adopted or not that lives in common residence. And if we agree with this definition it can lead to an assumption that divorced parents, single parents and homosexual couples are not considered as a family. Are you familiar with the Mosuo of Luoshui Village in China? In this society, child grows up with his/ her mother and mother’s brother (uncle) and not with their fathers. Further studies of sociologist and anthropologists have deepened the understanding of family structures as they discovered some ethnic groups practicing different form of family and marriages yet living abundantly and still prevail. Students of family then inferred that there is no particular or perfect form of family. A notion that a it requires at least one adult and one dependent person to be called a family is now conceived. So for the question if single parents and homosexuals with a pet is considered a family, yes they are all families.  

          Now that we know what a family is let’s proceed to its functions in the society. Firstly, the function of the family lies on its socialization of children. As the most basic institution, family becomes responsible for the firsthand knowledge of an individual. It enables the child to learn values and attitudes within the culture and how to survive in society where that they belong. This establishes the foundation of the child for future socialization. Second, it legitimizes sexual relations for reproduction. Marriage is necessary for copulation to be accepted in the society. Being in a family legitimizes this. Family is also important for economic production. Families manufacture goods and services for the market. Connected to socialization, family is unconsciously assigning its members on what particular role it must portray in a society. An example of this is that fathers treat their daughters differently from their sons. Daughters are expected to have a lenient work as to compare to sons who requires force and is risky. Another of these functions is for emotional support and affection. Families take care of the sick and aged. It demonstrates to the young ones on how to deal with problems and tragedy. Lastly, is for procreation and continue the linage.

          Of course, a family has to be healthy in order for them to function well. Several characteristics of a healthy family are as follows. First, the parents must have a definite role. Confusion in role could lead to some misunderstanding in the family. An example of this is that parents are expected to provide the needs of their children. If they failed to do their part, there is possibility for a children to have a difficulty upon doing his/ her role (e.g. to study well) because they also have to work to support their expenses.   Second, there should be a consistent affection and support among family members. If a child is neglected, he/she may be depressed and resort to crimes. Third, a family must be adaptable and flexible. Once a crisis hits the family they must respond to it clearly and precisely otherwise, it’s going to hit them hard. They must also be open and communicating very often. Communication is very important among groups to function.

          Unfortunately, there are some families with an opposite characteristics of a functional family.  A dysfunctional family is a family that is always in conflict and arguments. This prohibits them from doing their role in the society. This family lacks flexibility. Once a crisis comes they end up fighting amongst another. Another, in a dysfunctional family, there is an extreme detachment and poor communication. As stated above, communication is very important for a better relationship. A family who does not understand each other is bound to break. This miscommunication can develop anger and hate towards each other leading them to separate. And last, this kind of family often scapegoating within the family where an individual is placed as the object of conflict without addressing the real cause of the problem.

          That’s all we can share for now. Who knows, if someone asked you either of these questions, you know now how to answer it.

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SocSci10 Z Group 5

Enriquez, Ryan

Flores, Nathaniel Lorenz

Galido, Noel Joseph

Jimenez, Rica

Paican, Maria Luzviminda

Vergara, Bryan